The girl in the mirror…
One of the hardest things to do is to take a good hard look in the mirror. I dont know about you guys, but for years….the mirror and me were not friends. I looked into it and got what I needed to get done as fast as possible. Yet, this morning…I just sat there staring at the girl looking back at me. It seemed like she was asking me…why arent you doing what needs to be done to take care of me?? Look at me…i’m worth it, your worth it! Look at me with love, with some compassion in your heart. Are you so cold that you dont care any more?? Your treating me badly and it hurts. Look at me…take a long good hard look and I stared into the mirror like i’ve never seen this girl before. Maybe because I really havent seen this girl before. I’m not the girl I used to be when I was younger. I’m not the girl I was even a few months ago. I’m becoming someone new. This 40 year old woman staring at the mirror is changing…mentally, and physically. Yet, lately on this journey I have been treating her like she doesnt really count. I havent even really taken the time to get to know her or to take care of her. Skipping meals, eating for reasons other then hunger..skipping workouts….why is she in last place?? Why am I in last place?? Do I really want to look in the mirror and tell that woman facing me that all the chores that need to be done, life in general is more important then her?? Maybe its time I became a little more selfish. That i’m putting her on top of my list instead of at the bottom-she doesnt belong there-I dont belong there. As I sat there and stared, I thought, ok…your right. I’m sorry and i’m gonna do better. Its time to give that girl a chance to become the woman that she can really be. To give her a body that she’s proud of. To feel healthy and happy. Its time for me.
You know I dont hate what I see in the mirror anymore. Some days I think ugh…and some days I like what I see. I’m not going to be avoiding the mirror any more. I’m gonna be taking some good long looks and encouraging that woman I see. You cant change what you dont face. By avoiding mirrors i’m hiding. I’ve never really thought of myself as a coward but thats what i’ve been. Its time to face myself and learn a few hard facts. That the girl in the mirror, me, is worth effort and time that it takes to take care of myself. Maybe being a little bit selfish is not a bad thing. Its time to give this girl a chance.
What about you guys…mmmm. What about the girl that you face in the mirror?? Are you really giving her a chance to shine? To become all that she dreams of? Come on guys, be just a little bit selfish with me. Move yourself to the top of the list instead of the bottom or somewhere down low. Are you so cold you dont care anymore? She deserves everything that you have in your heart to give. You deserve it.
Love you guys, Debbie
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somemansdream what a great blog, you know i had the same self talk to the mirrow a few days ago…and it really true what you wrote about….so i am in the same journey with you….we can do this together no need to feel lonely we have eachother to give that push….of support soon we will be looking back and asking who is this sexy mama….lol…..H5
Well that one really hit home. Thanks for posting this AMAZING blog!!!
I think we are so focused on putting others first, which is still the right thing, that we think that means we have to neglect ourselves..not true! We were made to take care of our bodies and treat them as temples…I too often forget that. When I look in the mirror (which is rarely!) I don’t like what I see, but I have to remind myself that I am loved- by my friends and family and the One who created me…so why am I the only one who doesn’t like myself? Thank you for this blog- I think I’m going to print it as a reminder!!
there is a lot of truth in what you said… and i’m not sure why it is so easy to put ourselves on the bototm of the list. it really isn’t good for anyone in the end, but it still isn’t easy being a little more selfish, even if it really is best. but- glad to hear you are not putting yourself last anymore!
Like you, I’m an in and out kinda girl when it comes to the mirror. I don’t take a lot of a pains with my appearance. Part of that is a time factor, but part of it is just like you said. I don’t take care of myself. I’m neglecting the girl in the mirror. Thank you so much for the wake up call. I need to take care of me, so that I can do a better job of taking care of the ones I love. Awesome blog!!
I don’t have the mirror thing but I have a picture thing. I see pictures of me obese and gross and I think “that is not how I feel and not who I am” I cannot wait for the inside to match the outside…
Oh yes, mirror avoidance, no pictures allowed, how I recognize that! I don’t even like to shop for clothes anymore because nothing looks good,
nothing fits like it should. Being last on the list has always been a problem for me. Everybody
else’s wants and need come before mine. How did I get this way? Moving me to the top of my list is going to be a priority for me. Leaning to say no to others will help. Thanks Debra, for making me think!
Oh Debbie, I loved it! What a touching blog. And I have to say that it hit home for me and probably for many others as well. Thanks!
“Are you really giving her a chance to shine? To become all that she dreams of?”
Ok I’m having a really really bad day today emotion-wise and what you wrote today really struck a cord and actually made me a bit sad. Not your fault! Just helped me see that I’m not letting myself shine. I’m not giving myself any opportunity to use my talents, and this is not a good thing. I’ve kinda given up on my dreams. But your blog definately got me thinking.
Oh CRAP!! I must be BAAAAD cuz it was NOT hard for me to realize I was taking a backseat to laundry and shower-cleaning and reclaim my rightful place near the top of my list. LOL (With two toddlers, can’t really come FIRST, but third isn’t bad in this situation.)
YES!! Put yourself at the top of your list!! You deserve it, and that girl in the mirror will THANK you. Seeing her happy and healthy will be a reward in itself.
Okay Deb…I’m gonna let you in on a little secret that I haven’t told anyone yet. This morning when I got off the treadmill (in my sweatpants and sports bra) I started dancing…in front of the mirror….and I couldn’t stop! I have NEVER done that before! I wasn’t ashamed of what I saw. Sure it could be better, but at least I could dance!!!! I love this blog…I can relate to this blog…I actually felt myself sitting up a bit straighter in my chair and saying “Yeah…I do deserve to be first!” Thanks for the reminder honey, I needed it!
Sniff sniffff…..got me on this one. I used to never like the girl in the mirror. I couldn’t stand everything about her. In fact, I didn’t take care of her at all.
That all changed now. I’m much better and I do put my needs in first place more then I did in the past. You know, I only started accepting and learned to love myself this past year.
I love this blog Debbie. You keep loving yourself and what you see in the mirror. Take good care of you so you can be there for hubby and everyone else.
What an amazing message. I can’t even put into words how much your message means to me. I mean, wow. Just wow…though that doesn’t even come close to describing how I feel. You are a wonderful writer.
Wow Debbie….that is a message we all needed to hear, I know I sure do, and you are so right…..thanks for writing this and making us all take a moment to ask ourselves some very importrant questions….
As mothers and lovers we take such good care of the people around us, why cant we do the same for ourselves?
Peace Always,
Leah♥
Awesome message, Deb, thanks.
hehe… looks like we are on the same court today, but opposite ends. That’s what’s so great about happy mediums… BALANCE!
Loved the blog sweetie. It touched me. So many times I’ve looked in the mirror and didn’t like what I saw… not only on the outside, but the inside too.
Huggggggggggggggggs,
Shan
Wow what a though provoking blog
THANKS!
Lori
wow! I literally cried when I read this blog. I’m not to bad at avoiding the mirror, but it does seem lately that I’ve been shying away from it. I use to look into my full length mirror every time I’d leave the house, and lately I haven’t been doing that. After reading your blog it hit me… I don’t want to see what I’ve became. It hurts pretty bad knowing when you look in that mirror that it is your own self who put you in that situation. It is your own self who let your self get that heavy. But it’s time to change! “You can’t change the past but you can change the future.” Remember that! And start taking some time for yourself. I know you can reach your goal…. I think this was a good wake up call for you.. and me as well!!! Good luck!
And thanks for posting this blog.
Debbie all you have to do is let the old you fall away to the new you. There are girles out there with perfect bodies who hate themselves. This is a inner battle..and were winning! One day we will wake up and everytime we see the mirror smile and know how beautiful the rest of the world see us, not just sometiems but EVERYTIME. and I can promise you it wont be because of the number on the scale but the strenght in our hearts!
Loved your blog today Debra
So many true words spoken here. Yup, I too have put the girl in the mirror in last place
Thank you for reminding us all the step up and take care of ourselves. You are the WOMAN!!
Hugs
Jane
I try not to make eye contact with my girl in the mirror…BUT I am learning to make myself more of a priorty (just took J leaving for me to do it)
Beautiful blog Debbie…touched my heart…thank you!
Great blog! You are such an inspiration to me!
Big HUGS!